For my ears, I haven't added the coupling caps, and the noise level on everything is totally acceptable. I may play with adding some later after the other stuff below is resolved.
The build came together nicely from high level standpoint, fits EXACTLY, I don't think I will need to do a rev 2 of the board, but if I did I would adjust the hole sizing to be a bit larger for the DPDT, probably switch to ovals (I used circles in case I messed up and needed to rotate the 3DPT by 90 degrees), decrease dimensions of the board by a mm or two, and add coupling capacitors for the phase invert stage.
I did have a major problem which is why I didn't post pictures yet, I used a bit too much solder on the 3DPT lugs, and it caused a bridge on the center most pin (prettttty unlucky) which was always grounding the output
I was able to get the 3DPT off, the output pad lifted, I dont have a spare 3DPT, so for now I used jumper wire to take the place of the 3DPT. I already confirmed bypass was working.
All sounds great, when I flip the phase vs not with jumpers, I can hear the phase cancellation very clearly. The blend works great. So all in all I am happy, just waiting on a few parts to rebuild a 2nd board. For now I will use it as an always on until the tayda order comes in!
Thanks for the help and tips everyone, glad I won't be sinking tons of more time and money into getting this one right and can get back to playing!