I just have memories of my dad teaching me how to solder at age 7 during his repair class he was teaching at the community college.The smoke you see (and smell) when soldering IS the flux fumes, not lead. We don’t get to anywhere near the temperature lead vaporizes in soldering, there are no lead fumes from lead bearing solder. But yes, the resin fumes ARE the problem.
Breathing in ALL the fumes