See it’s this kind of crap that makes me happy I don’t really hang out with people. I’m too old for all of that crap. I had to stop speaking to some family for my own mental health. It made a world of difference for me. I hate it, but my quality of life and marriage are so much better.
Smart. I support anyone who does this.
It's impossible to make give any kind of an accurate assessment on situations like this with limited info.
But it's fun as heck, so might as well give it a shot!
Tbh it sounds to me that either Team Resdef was just being dumb about it and are in too deep/too stubborn to give in. Or what I'd put my money on is that Team Resdef (or wifey Resdef) is lying about what her issue actually is.
To follow soap opera tropes, I bet she had a thing for Mr. Value and while not necessarily enough to break up her own marriage, is pissed that he got married to someone else!
(or maybe she just hates Mr. Value for some other reason)
Oh I can keep going!
I got an earful of this stuff. My life is generally ‘boring’ in a good way (not-dramatic) by design, so it’s really something when things like this happen.
Ms ResDef doesn’t really hang out much with other women. As long as I’ve known her, she hangs out with the dudes. The times I’ve seen my dude friends bring dates over to the ResDef house, both my wife and I noticed how rude she was to the dates. The pattern that kept emerging was she liked to be the only woman in the room. Mr ResDef is my friend, and my wife is not over there that often.
Mr ResDef tried to coordinate a friendship between our spouses, which was kind of weird. If it was meant to be, wouldn’t it just happen? It was like the man saying “you need women friends”.
My wife is cool, but doesn’t tolerate disrespect. So after the pattern of Ms ResDef asking to hang out, but then ghosting her the day of, then responding days later with a weak lie, she was done. Not wanting to sour my long friendship with Mr ResDef, she didn’t make a big deal out of it.
Mrs Value emotionally discharged when we had them over. She didn’t have much going on in her life previously, and said she was like Ms ResDef’s on-call friend. When other women were involved, like Ms ResDef’s sister in-law (who is a cool, likable human), Mrs ResDef became a broker to that relationship- she was not ok with Ms Value becoming friends with Ms BOM on the side. Ms ResDef did the same thing with my wife, tried to be the in-between on a friendship with Ms Value. The more stories Ms Value told about Ms ResDef, the more it was triggering my wife’s experience with manipulative, self-victimizing people from the past.
This new marriage also involves Ms Value moving across the country. Ms ResDef has told Ms Value “you complete me”, and brushed off that sentiment about Mr ResDef.
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